BY DANA MAYER
STOP the negative self-talk. It’s easy to be hard on yourself. But I haven’t met one person who doesn’t have unique gifts and talents. It’s hard to fix weaknesses. It is easier to lean into your strengths.
START by uncovering your natural strengths. If you want an unshakeable self-image and self-belief, start by remembering what gives you an advantage over others. Keep reminding yourself of your unique brilliance on a daily basis. And to deliberately use your skills and talents, more frequently, more deeply and with more power.
To uncover your natural advantages, get a pad of Post-Its. Write down every win you can remember over your lifetime. Start when you were a child. Think back to college and your early career. Remember times when you felt a victory. Small ones count as much as big ones.
Examples: The third-grade soccer game where you kicked the winning goal. The first time you got an A in math. Going to try-outs even though you were terrified. Getting into three colleges of your choice. Landing your first job. Climbing to the top of a mountain. Rescuing a kitten. Having a baby. Closing your first major sale. Getting promoted. Losing 20 pounds. Coming back from an injury.
Now take the Post-Its and put them up on a wall or on a piece of poster board. Read over your accomplishments.
Breathe deeply and notice how your body feels. This is what it feels like to be your best self. Notice your thoughts are not critical or judging. This is how you master your mindset.
The next step is to choose five to 10 peak experiences that were your most significant victories—your biggest victories.
Extra tips to deepen this experience and boost your self-image:
- Put the top 5 Post-It notes on your bathroom mirror or around your computer.
- Save your top wins to the home screen of your mobile phone.
- Write them in a journal to start a Victory Log. Keep track of your on-going successes by writing them in the journal.
Scott Oldford, founder of INFINITUS calls his accomplishments his ‘unfair advantage.’ He reads his every day. “Look at yourself every morning and remember why you’re incredible: You’ve got the unfair advantage that can’t be replicated.”